On Honesty in our lives: The Domestic and the Primal

Exploring the Tension Between Social Evolution and Hidden Inclinations

There is a curious friction in the modern cultural landscape. On one hand, we have successfully dismantled many of the rigid “traditional” cages that once confined women to specific roles. On the other hand, in our haste to liberate, we have sometimes created a new kind of silence—a taboo surrounding the domestic and the primal.

The topics of cooking, knitting, and caretaking, when paired with the psychological complexity of power dynamics (spanking), reveal a fascinating discrepancy between the “public persona” of the modern woman and the “private essence” of the individual.

The Domestic: “Nitting” as Archetype

For decades, knitting and cooking were viewed as symbols of domestic servitude. In a “woke” or progressive context, suggesting these are a woman’s “natural domain” is often met with immediate resistance because it feels like a step backward.

However, as noted in various philosophical frameworks—including the Gurdjieff Work—these activities aren’t just chores; they are exercises in presence, rhythm, and creation.

• The Discrepancy: While the theory of modern equality suggests women should find fulfillment outside the home, the practice shows a massive resurgence in “slow living” crafts.

• The Taboo: The taboo exists because we fear that admitting an affinity for “homemaking” will validate the old patriarchal structures. We struggle to separate the joy of the craft from the history of the obligation.

The Primal: Power Dynamics and the “Unspoken”

The mention of spanking—or more broadly, consensual power exchange—is perhaps the ultimate modern taboo. There is a prevailing social theory that women, having fought for autonomy, should inherently reject any form of submission.

Yet, practitioners of Gurdjieff’s “Fourth Way” or those who study human psychology deeply often find that essence and personality are two different things.

1. Theory: Women want total egalitarianism in all spheres of life.

2. Practice: In the safety of the bedroom, many women find a profound sense of “relief from the burden of autonomy” through controlled power dynamics.

The taboo persists because it feels like a “betrayal” of the movement. If a woman enjoys a submissive role in a private, consensual context, society often misinterprets it as a weakness rather than a complex psychological preference.

Why the Silence?

Why does society react so strongly to these topics? It comes down to identity politics.